Wednesday, August 27, 2014

Restoring faith in humanity (and failing)

The internet is a fucked up spot.

Depending on where you go you can find, cute, faith restoring, enraging or porn.

I go on a website that will not be named. Because I still follow the fucking rules.
I used to go there for laughs and to loose my hope in humanity, and you know what? Facebook does a better job at this now. I tend to use that other site as a source of fast, very unreliable and biased news. Kinda like CNN, but with less rules.

Facebook you can find everything
softcore porn. Women (and men) upload tonnes of suggestive pictures of themselves.
Bloggy rants. I just went through my old notes because they reminded me of what an autistic beta male shit I used to be.
Restoring faith in humanity, follow various awesome and funny celebrities
Loosing faith in humanity, follow anyone you used to go to highschool with
cute. cats are fucking everywhere.

So, I mean, I know why this is happening. Its been going on for years, the integration of real and digital life which makes sense. If your personal info is on all facebook, available for everyone to see may was well have a resume attached to it so that potential employers can see if they will like you.

The problem with that is you always have to be one person, and no one is only one person.

They way you behave around your roommate is different from your parents, from your friends, from you girlfriend and your coworkers.

For example: I do not swear at all at work, I try to be patient polite and not blunt. Why? Because its the best way to deal with people and keep them not pissed therefore making work more enjoyable.

When I am with my friends I swear like a fucking sailor, we are patient and tolerant of each other but also brutally honest.

Around my parents I dont swear, and I am patient of them because Im at the age where I am an adult, they are at the age where their mind starts going ect ect ect.

Also there is lots of sarcasm and teasing, definitely more than work.

A room mate may be treated as a friend or as a coworker or both

Finally you seduce a girlfriend, so yeah thats a huge difference there.

This may sound unhealthy, and it kinda is, but everyone's behavior changes slightly based on who they are around and the type of relationship it is.

Truth be told, the one time you are probably perfectly honest with being you is around your friends and girlfriends, because everyone else you want to impress some way. Your friends will just accept you and your girlfriend should to (if not, consider an upgrade to a newer model)

So how are we supposed to integrate our real life with our digital life if there are aspects that you dont want one group seeing?

Simple. Online behave as you would be at work, keep this in mind for social media.

I know I had to for my first job, half of my university pictures I had to make more difficult for coworkers and bosses to see.

Perhaps employers should change their attitude towards their employees, if they want to be a complete dumbass on facebook or when they are not at work let them. You are not paying them it is their own time they can do what they wish.\

On the other had you are always representing your company, so perhaps we need to consider that before uploading some crazy picture to facebook.

Maybe everyone needs to mature a little more, people using and viewing facebook. Consider more seriously what you put up and who can see it, and for people who view and see it consider that there is always more to that individual than you know, and if you are old dont forget that you were young once, doing silly things.

You just didnt announce it to the world.

Sunday, August 24, 2014

Nostalgia

Recently I've been wondering what happened to old acquaintances and friends.

No. Not high school,

university. My first year, probably when I was a good balance of effort and awesome and not that much alcoholism, however too much naivety.

More optimistic, and less of a dick. What do I want to do you ask?

Find out what happened to the woman who turned me into a womanizing dick, the first female I was truly, remorselessly a huge fucking prick to because of what she did. It was easier to just pretend that she was nothing and not contact her ever again, make eye contact and painfully, obviously ignore.

Apparently this upset her. And to this day, I still dont give a fuck about how much I hurt her, but I am curious to if she is alive and ever bothered to finish her last two years.

The next is my bros from that year, the two guys I spent the most time with. Along with the girl the 4 of us were practically inseparable. Late night movies, that were actually rented from a store, video games and generally good company.

One wanted to be a marine biologist, and he was the type of guy who was unbelievably smart. The most intelligent man I have ever met. He went on and off to university taking it in little bites to keep from getting burned out and from going too far into debt. Im not sure if he ever finished.

The other wanted to be an artist, its obvious why he went to the school but he didnt belong there. He was far more talented than the fine artists that they normally accept. Last I heard his country had strongly encouraged him to join the military, he could actually be dead.

These guys didnt belong at the school, they were too good at what they were trying to learn and at first seemed to not put any effort into classes and do well, eventually they just slacked off.

I dont even know why I care, Ive seen the smart guy once at a concert so he isnt dead yet. None of them, myself included, at the time were very big on using facebook.

The guys from my second year I keep in better touch with, still not great. Its kind of amusing that with social media it should be easier to keep in touch, yet it seems we communicate with some people just as much as we would without it.


Wednesday, August 13, 2014

the last time

Have you ever said this is the last time to anything?

Why?

I mean if you are doing something that you don't want to do anymore, some sort of vice fit example, why do you say this is the last time then do something you are about to quit

What if it was something that you like doing and you think what if it's the last time.

In this case why does it have to be the last time, and if you have that type of attitude it may just be.

So let us discuss this idea of the last time

Let's say you want to quit smoking or drinking pop. So you have one last dart or one final sip. Why do people seem to think that saying it's the last time then doing it again gives the action a sense of finality. If you want to stop, just stop. Don't do it one more time to remember how much you enjoy it, on the other hand if you don't like it but do it out of habit maybe one more time will motivate you to never do so again.

If you like it and want to stop then just stop. If you hate it and want to stop then do it once more, remind yourself why you need to stop.

One last time seems to me to be used for something that you enjoy and should stop. It is very bad at motivating you to stop so don't use that phrase, instead say that the last time you did it was the last time.

Now let's talk about something positive, like telling the person you care about you love them. You should do it often because it may be the last time.

Same phrase different attitude, where the former was used nostalgically about a vice the later is used as a carpet diem sort of idea

In both cases you should not be putting off what you want to do.

If you want to quit then do it.
If you want to kiss her then do it.

Otherwise you may never get the chance or motivation to.